#5 - Skyler Young - Walk While You Can, Perfectly Imperfect, & ”Do you like the person you see?”

In episode 5 of The Bryant Ferate Podcast, I get to sit down with +19 year basketball coach Skyler Young (End of May 2022). Currently, the assistant basketball coach for the University of Portland Women's Basketball team. Amazing friend with so much compassion and deep thoughts on life. Man, whew this episode just made me pause afterward. 

We discuss developing genuine relationships, what has impacted Sky’s growth in this area, walking while you can, defining what perfectly imperfect means to each of us, playing your own course, and much more.

“Do you like the person you see?”

 

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Skyler Young Podcast (Timestamps)

(4:00) Sky’s skill of building relationships

(6:52) Defining being an introvert vs. extrovert

(8:28) Ferate describing himself introvert vs. extrovert

(10:20) Knowing yourself & being real

(13:28) Walking to work? Started in Utah & when his mom passed away.

(15:30) Taking advantage of those moments because you never know

(17:38) Walking to work during undergrad at WSU

(20:10) Sky always been good at calling & checking in with people?

(21:26) Walking for health

(25:20) Kind crazy or odd to connect with others over the phone

(27:00) Reciprocity

(29:15) Improving communication & clarity through the podcast

(31:15) Asking student-athletes tough questions (Setting boundaries & what is self awareness)

(33:10) Not in the text msg loop

(34:00) Perfectly Imperfect

(35:40) “Don’t let the old man in.”

(37:52) Adam Grant & Curiosity

(41:18) Playing your own course

(44:42) What inspired Ferate to start writing the blog, newsletter, & podcasting?

(50:20) What brings me energy?

(51:00) “Appreciate It” and having more moments like that

(52:50) Victor Frankel influence on what makes a good conversation.

(55:34) Your vulnerability is your invincibility.

(57:20) Future Podcast Concepts

(59:40) Progress ladders & creating the life that you want to live.

(1:02:20) Skyler’s vulnerability & telling the truth

(1:04:12) How did you get better at being blunt? Bold?

(1:08:45) Spectrum of Bold & Compassionate (Dark Side of Both)

(1:12:02) Perfectly Imperfect Meaning

(1:14:00) “Do you like the person you see?”

(1:19:02) Ferate’s take on Perfectly Imperfect

(1:24:46) How do you get out of your own way?

(1:34:00) Underpaid, overworked, love it, & no hobbies

(1:36:15) The Inner Game of Tennis

(1:42:10) Ferate’s Top 5 Podcasts Right Now (Jay Shetty, The Room Where It Happens, My First Million, Modern Wisdom, & HubermanLab)

(1:50:32) The Closer - Sky’s Next & Now?

(1:55:35) Ferate’s Next & Now?